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When the five elements governed by Lord Shiva (Panch Mahabhoota – Earth, Water, Fire, Air and Ether) united with Shakti (Pure Consciousness), Lord Kartikeya was born.Shiva is called Panchaanana – Lord with five heads. These five heads represent the five elements in Nature. When these five elements united with the sixth: Chaitanya Shakti(Pure Consciousness), they gave birth to the Shadaanana (six headed), also called Lord Kartikeya. You can understand this in terms of the Kundalini Shakti (the primordial, dormant yet potent energy said to be present in a coiled form at the base of the spine).We have seven chakras (energy centers) within us. When the energy surges through the six chakras and stabilizes at the sixth chakra – the Ajna chakra (present in the middle of the eyebrows), it blossoms as Lord Kartikeya (symbolism of the Guru Tattva -Principle). The Ajna chakra is the place of the Guru Tattva. It is where the Guru Tattva blossoms and manifests itself. And that Guru Tattva itself is Kartikeya Tattva.Lord Shiva is the un-manifest Divinity, while Lord Kartikeya is the manifest. So you can think of Lord Kartikeya as symbolic of the Kundalini Shakti.There is a story about Lord Kartikeya from the Puranas.When Kartikeya was a young child, His father, Lord Shiva asked him to go and study and receive education from Lord Brahma. So Kartikeya went to Lord Brahma and asked him, ‘Please tell me the meaning of Om.’ Lord Brahma said, ‘First learn the alphabets! You are directly asking for the meaning of Om.’ Kartikeya said, ‘No, I want to know the highest knowledge first – Om.’Now Lord Brahma knew all about the alphabets, but he did not know the meaning of Om (the primordial sound). So Kartikeya said to Lord Brahma, ‘You do not know the meaning of Om, how will you teach me? I will not study under you.’ And Kartikeya went back to his father, Lord Shiva.Lord Brahma told Lord Shiva, ‘You alone can handle your son. I can’t handle him. If I say this, he says that. Whatever I say, he says the exact opposite of that. I won’t be able to teach him. So you decide what is best and handle him.’ Hearing this, Lord Shiva asked Kartikeya, ‘What happened son? Lord Brahma is the Creator of the entire universe. You must learn from him.’To this Kartikeya replied, ‘Then you tell me, what is the meaning of Om?’Hearing this, Lord Shiva smiled and said, ‘Even I don’t know.’Kartikeya then said, ‘Then I will tell you because I know the meaning of Om.’‘Then tell me the meaning since you know it’, said Lord Shiva.‘I can’t tell you like this. You have to give me the place of the Guru. Only if you put me on the pedestal of the Guru can I tell you’, said Kartikeya.Guru means he has to be on a higher position or platform. The teacher has to sit on a higher place and the student has to sit down and listen to him.How can Lord Shiva find a seat higher than Him, for He is the highest and greatest of Gods? So then Lord Shiva lifted the young Kartikeya on to His shoulders. And then in the ear of Lord Shiva, Lord Kartikeya explained the meaning of the Pranava Mantra(Om).Kartikeya explained that the entire Creation is contained in Om.The Trinity – Lord Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva are contained in Om.Om means that everything is love – unbroken and unshakeable love is Om. This is the essence and also the secret of Om that Lord Kartikeya narrated to Lord Shiva.Upon hearing this, Goddess Parvati (Mother of Lord Kartikeya, and an incarnation of the Mother Divine) was elated and overcome with joy. She said, ‘You have become a Guru (Swami) to my Lord (Natha)!’ Saying this she addressed her son as Swaminatha, and ever since Lord Kartikeya also came to be known as Swaminatha.So in this way, Lord Kartikeya assumed the position of the Guru and explained the meaning of Om to Lord Shiva by sitting on his shoulder. So the essence of the story is this –The Guru Tattva is placed even higher than Lord Shiva Himself!CLICK TO TWEETTo explain this truth, this story was written in the Skanda Purana. ancient scriptures, concept of god, guru, kartikeya, shiva
CHANT ANYWAY!
Your mind is wondering all over the universe when you chant.
Chant anyway!
Your mind is wondering to the past and future when you chant.
Chant anyway!
You are not able to concentrate on Krsna’s names while you chant.
Chant anyway!
You have no taste for chanting.
Chant anyway!
You have lusty desires.
Chant anyway!
You are making offences in chanting.
Chant anyway!
You are not praying to Krsna to help you chant better.
Chant anyway!
You often chant late at night.
Chant anyway!
So WHY? Why should you chant despite all the above obstacles?
This is why:
There is no vow like chanting the holy name, no knowledge superior to it, no meditation which comes anywhere near it, and it gives the highest result.
No penance is equal to it, and nothing is as potent or powerful as the holy name.
Chanting is the greatest act of piety and the supreme refuge.
Even the words of the Vedas do not possess sufficient power to describe its magnitude.
Chanting is the highest path to liberation, peace and eternal life.
It’s the pinnacle of devotion, the heart’s joyous proclivity and attraction and the best form of remembrance of the Supreme Lord.
The holy name has appeared solely for the benefit of the living entities as their lord and master, their supreme worshipful object and their spiritual guide and mentor.
Whoever continuously chants Lord Krishna’s holy name, even in his sleep, can easily realize that the name is a direct manifestation of Krishna Himself, in spite of the influences of Kali-yuga.
– Bhaktivinoda Thakura, Saranagati (quoted from Adi-purana)
What are you worth? And are you charging fully for that worth?If you provide goods or services for which you yourself have to set the price, you will have faced a challenging question. How much is what you do worth? It’s extraordinary how difficult this is to answer! Whatever it is you do, it feels as if you are really being asked ‘How much are you worth?’ And, for all those ads proclaiming that you’re worth it, it can feel both boastful and demeaning to put a sum on it.
The thing is, if you don’t charge the right rate, you won’t earn the right rate, and your business venture will run into the ground. So tackling the question of what to charge as a professional fee and getting it right is vital.
But why does it feel so difficult to charge what you’re worth?
Making a profit is essential if you want to survive in business
Most people can point to the ‘value added’ attributes of their goods or services. You know what training you’ve undertaken, what level of skill you have attained, what you have invested in high quality materials, and so forth. It’s not too difficult to work out a balance sheet equivalent for these factors. But to do well you have to make a profit. That means that your income must, over time, exceed your expenses.
It’s important to focus on your customer to charge properly
And this is where many people balk. It almost feels as if you must charge more than you’re worth! And if you’re the honest, modest, hard working type, this just feels wrong. But this is all due to focusing on the wrong thing. What you are worth is not what you think you are worth, but what your customer thinks you are worth.
Value, price, worth – all the same thing?
Although for some people a low price is the most important thing, this attitude is actually quite rare. For most people, a low price is indicative of a low value. It’s a cliché that you get what you pay for, but there are subtleties on both sides. People do sometimes charge ridiculous rates for what really has little value. But you are not about to do this, are you? You are looking to feel comfortable about charging the right rate.
Getting beyond price to what it’s really worth
Determining the right rate calls for an accurate assessment of your value added factors, an understanding of buyer psychology, a commitment to see that both sides get value from the transaction, and determining a profit margin that will satisfactorily achieve this goal. Getting to this stage may call for a serious change of mind about what you’re worth.
Health is wealth and positive health affirmations are the key to this wealth. When the mind thinks health thoughts, the body finds it easier to be healthy.
The connection between mind and body is now well known. It is an agreed fact that diseases are psychosomatic, i.e. they are mostly caused by thought and emotions.
Even diseases caused by germs can be termed psychosomatic in the sense that germs are allowed to enter into the body or existing germs in the body become strong enough to cause the disease because the immune system of the body is lowered due to emotional reasons.
Emotions are controlled by thought and thoughts can be formed at will. Affirmations help to mould thoughts. Thus, the connection between affirmations and health becomes clear.
It is often said, “Change your thoughts, change your life”. It is possible to fill the mind with health thoughts by using positive health affirmations.
Repeating these affirmations over and over impresses the subconscious mind to such a degree that it slowly starts transforming the body to align with the health thoughts.
Even dreaded diseases like cancer have been conquered by thought power. The placebo effect in medicine is purely psychological. In this, a patient, instead of being given a real medicine is given a sugar pill but is told that this is real medicine to cure his medical condition. And cure it does! The fact is that it is not the placebo that cures the patient but the patient’s mind that does it. Affirmations for good health can do similarly wonderful things for the body.
” You Are The Placebo”
By Dr Joe Dispenza
We get up on the same side of the bed, go through the same routine in the bathroom, comb our hair in the same way, sit in the same chair as we eat the same breakfast and hold our mug in the same hand, drive the same route to the same job, and do the same things we know how to do so well with the same people (who push the same emotional buttons) every day.
And then we hurry up and go home so that we can hurry up and check our e-mail so that we can hurry up and eat dinner so that we can hurry up and watch our favourite TV shows so that we can hurry up and brush our teeth in the same bedtime routine so that we can hurry up and go to bed at the same time so that we can hurry up and do it all over again the next day.
As a result of this conscious or unconscious process, your biology stays the same. Neither your brain nor your body changes at all, because you’re thinking the same thoughts, performing the same actions, and living by the same emotions-even though you may be secretly hoping your life will change.
Now take a look at your life for a moment. What does this mean for you? If you’re thinking the same thoughts as yesterday, more than likely, you’re making the same choices today. Those same choices today are leading to the same behaviours tomorrow. The same habitual behaviours tomorrow are producing the same experiences in your future. The same events in your future reality are creating the same predictable emotions for you all the time. And as a result, you’re feeling the same every day. Your yesterday becomes your tomorrow-so in truth; your past is your future.
If you agree with me up to this point, then we could say that the familiar feeling I just described is “you”- your identity or your personality. It’s your state of being. And it’s comfortable, effortless, and automatic. It’s the known you who, quite frankly, is living in the past. When you keep this redundant process going on a daily basis so everything stays the same about your personality. If this is your personality, then your personality creates your personal reality.
You see, most people try to create a new personal reality as the same old personality, and it doesn’t work. So if you understand this model, then you should agree with me that your new thoughts should lead to new choices. New choices should lead to new behaviours. New experiences should create new emotions, and new emotions and feeling should inspire you to think in new ways. That’s called “evolution.” And your personal reality and your biology-your brain circuitry, your internal chemistry, your genetic expression, and ultimately your health- should change as a result of this new personality, this new state of being. And it all seems to start with a thought.
So when we repeat a thought or an experience enough times, our brain cells make not only stronger connections between each other (which affects our physiological functions), but also a greater number of total connections (which affects the physical structure of the body). The brain becomes more enriched microscopically.
So as soon as you think a new thought, you becomes changed-neurologically, chemically, and genetically. In fact, you can gain thousands of new connections in a matter of seconds from novel learning, new ways of thinking, and fresh experiences. This means that by thought alone, you can personally actives new genes right away. It happens just by changing your mind; it’s mind over matter.
Therefore, if we repeat what we learn enough times, we strengthen communities of neurons to support us in remembering it the next time. This is why it’s important for us to continually update, review, and remember our new thoughts, choices, behaviours, habits, beliefs, and experiences if we want them to solidify in our brains.
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Physical Meaning
Magick is in the air. Your finances need to be closely looked at. Are you spending beyond your means? You are being guided to see the beauty in the magic of nature. Look towards nature for your answers. The energy of the full Moon will be the time to tell the Universe, God, Spirit of your goals. They WILL be achieved. Know this. This is your sign.
Affirmation: “I am filled with the energy of Moonlight. Each goal I have has succeeded, and in that success I give back more. I am so grateful that the magic of nature and the Universe guides me to financial freedom”.
Spiritual Meaning
A visitation from a male loved one that has passed. You are being asked to trust in the magick that surrounds you. This is in the form of financial freedom and a gifting of financial support. Accept this gifting fully, without hesitation. Be strong in your convictions when it comes to your dreams and goals. Affirm strongly that your goals HAVE succeeded and you are gifting the Universe your gratitude. This is what is needed to lift your energy, your soul to cleaner, clearer energy.
Affirmation: “I am surrounded by the magic of the Universe and accept the gifting that it gives me. My (name of loved one that has passed), guides me daily and I am so blessed to be in their presence. Money flows to me effortlessly. I am financially abundant. I am blessed with the insight of the Moon energy and believe in it’s power, I am power-full in natures magic and am guided with grace”.
What does it mean when you find a Feather?
What does it mean when you see a Feather falling in front of you?
Do Feathers have healing powers?
Whether you have been walking on your spiritual path for eons of time or just stepped forward, the information received was out of a need, and urge to learn more about what feathers mean, and why they sometimes magically appear.
Are they here to teach us something about ourselves?
Can feathers hold messages for us, that can unlock healing and change?
Can they help with creativity and bring messages from beyond time and space?
I believe they can.
I believe they do.
*Numbers as Signs of the Angels*
*Angels are in the fifth, sixth, seventh dimensions and up, so it can be difficult to hear your messages for many people and in many situations of our physical world (third dimension). That is why the Angels communicate with us in various creative ways, sending signs and messages through people, songs, colors, even repetitive numbers.*
*Here are the main numbers that are repeated:*
*1-* Think positive. Your thoughts are manifesting quickly. You have the King Midas touch right now, just think of what you want. Release fears to the Angels and God.
*2-* Message from the Angels to assure you that all is well and will continue well. Have faith. It can also mean loving together.
*3-* Ascended Masters are with you.
*4-* This number appears repeatedly when we ask the angels for help. It is one of the ways they use to show us that they have heard our prayers and that they are helping us. They show up a lot on the clock when “coincidently” we see the hours at 4:44 for example. Also on car plates.
*5-* Positive changes happening. Old things being replaced by new and better things and situations.
*6-* Too much preoccupation with money and material things. Having too much concern for money can actually take money away from you. Trust that God will always provide, deliver your fears into the hands of the Angels.
Numbers combined with the 6 bring a meaning of money and material goods. For example, 46: the Angels are helping you with money, stay focused on the Spirit and leave your worries in the hands of the Angels.
*7-* You are on the right path. Keep it up. Good phase with good things unfolding. Lucky phase. Strong Angelic Presence Number. Also of angelic help in the Divine Purpose. When you appear in a new job or opportunity, it is an angelic confirmation that you are on the right path of your mission.
*8-* It means the Unlimited Source of Divine Abundance. Number 8 repeated means an infinity of abundance in all areas of your life, money, ideas, friends, joy, and especially everything that brings you closer to your purpose. This number also means balance and perfection.
*9-* Stop procrastinating with your Divine Purpose. Work on your Divine Purpose right now. Your Angels are giving you support and they tell you that you are ready for this, even though your ego tries to tell you that it is not ready. You are ready to work on your purpose NOW. Do not leave for tomorrow or push for after another book or course.
The presence of God in your life. It can also mean confirmation that your idea is Divinely guided, an affirmation that God is speaking to you.
*111-* You have the Midas touch now, which means that your thoughts are manifesting instantly, think positive so you do not manifest undesirable things. Make a diet of complaints. Increase gratitude, positive affirmations, prayers, and visualizations. Enjoy the magic touch of this portal.
*123-* Simplify your life. Get rid of things that no longer suit you. Make things easy for you. Reduce stress in your life by simplifying it. This may mean you need to reduce expenses and eliminate people who no longer do you good. Need for a list of priorities. Focus on the most important.
*444-* Millions of Angels are with you. It happens a lot after prayers, requests and when we talk, listen or read about angels.
*666-* Your thoughts are very negative about money. Trust that all abundance comes from God and He will always provide for you. Change the focus of the “cause” of money to God rather than people and situations. Your Angels help you with this if you ask.
*1111-* This number provides matches between twin flames. As dates, they can be portals, especially if they appear zeros in the middle, as for example in dates like 11/10/10, 10/10/11, or until 11/11/11, there is a greater opening of the cardiac chakra, greater sensitivity And facilitates magnetic attraction between the beings of the same monad. Positive thinking is still necessary. Signs of the next twin flame.
Dates with several 1s sensitize “crystal” personalities. Crystal children become very emotional and cry a lot on these dates.
Strong dates for manifestation of projects, letters to angels, an energy portal opens on these dates increasing the strength of our prayers and requests. Remember that thoughts are prayers as well.
FINDING FEATHERS
IS A STRONG SIGN FROM ANGELS
Angels will often align feathers on your path at just the right time to offer validation, comfort, or to encourage you that you’re on the right track.*
*Feathers can also be a call to pay attention, increase your awareness, or as a simple sign and reminder that yes, your angels are with you.*
*Angels use feathers of all different shapes and colors. Here is a quick look at what some of the different feather colors may mean. But, of course, pay attention, focus inward and listen to your intuition for further insight into the specific meaning of the feathers you find, and the guidance your angels have for you.*
*WHITE* – A reminder to keep the faith, you’re supported and protected by angels. Can also be a sign that your loved ones in Heaven are well, and have successfully crossed over into the spirit realms.
*RED* – Signify life force energy, physical vitality, stability, strength, passion, and courage.
*ORANGE* – Carry messages of creativity, listening to your inner voice, and staying positive to attract success.
*BLUE* – Bring a calming and peaceful energy, and are connected to communication, awareness, and are often a reminder to listen.
*GRAY* – A call to return to peace within to create it without. Gray is also neutral, and can be a sign that the answer to your question is not yes/no or black/white.
*BLACK* – A reminder of the protection of your angels, and a signal that spiritual wisdom, and magic are accessible by you within.
*PURPLE* – Carry messages of deep spirituality, transmutation of negativity, as well as the opening of psychic and spiritual sight.
*BROWN* – Signify grounding, home life, and stability. There is an energy of respect, grounded positivity, and balance between the physical and spiritual.
*GREEN* – Signify abundance and money, a fertile opportunity, as well as vibrant well-being, health, and love.
*YELLOW* – A reminder to be cheerful and light-hearted, to be present, alert, and to stay focused on what you desire to magnetize these blessings into your life.
*PINK* – A reminder of the unconditional love of your angels, and a reminder of the infinite inspiration available when you’re tuned into love.
*Face what you must Face*(A beautiful story from Mahabharata)
I am just reminded of a small story, an episode from Mahabharata – where Krishna & Balarama are going to the forest & by then the sun had already set and it grew dark. No huts or resting inns were to be found.
So, it seems Krishna came up with a proposal to Balarama, “I will go to sleep & you keep watching me. Whenever you feel sleepy, you wake me up & I’ll keep watching & you can go to sleep”.
Krishna went to sleep, Balarama who kept moving to and fro, encountered a monster in the forest who screamed at Balarama. And Balarama who was shaken up by the monster, shrank in size and the monster became bigger than Balarama.
The monster screamed one more time, Balarama shrank even further and the monster became even bigger.
One last attempt, the Monster screamed at Balarama, unable to take the might of the monster Balarama screamed “Krishna” & he fainted. Hearing the call “Krishna,” Krishna woke up.
Though Balarama had fainted, he mistook Balarama to be sleeping and Krishna started walking to and fro.
So the monster which now saw a new person standing there screamed at him one more time.
And it seems that Krishna instead of being perturbed, stared at the monster and asked: “What do you want ?”
The Courage made Krishna expand and Monster shrink. The monster once again screamed at Krishna, Krishna again asked the Monster “what do you want ?”
The monster shrank even further. And Krishna expanded even more. One last attempt, Monster screamed at Krishna and Krishna again asked the monster “what do you want?” And the monster shrunk very much in size.
The Epic goes, Krishna took the Monster in his hand, ties the Monster inside the end of his dhoti, by a knot.
The Sun did rise and Balarama and Krishna began to walk. And as they were walking, Balarama said – “Did you know what happened last night. A monster came and it was threatening us so much.”
Krishna gently took the monster out of his Dhoti and showed it to Balarama and asked – “Are you talking about this?”
Immediately Balarama exclaims ‘but when I saw it, it was so big but now it has become so small’.
*And Veda Vyasa through the voice of Krishna says – When you avoid what you must face in life, it becomes bigger than you and takes control over you.*
_The monster here is all the challenges we face in life. If you keep avoiding what you must face, these challenges become monstrous and take control over you._
_When you face what you must face, you become bigger than it and you take control over it._
*Always remember, challenges are given to you for a purpose – for you to become what you can become.*
We, as a society, really have no idea how *suffocated* people are in their emotions. Most people have *nobody* to express themselves entirely to. Everyone is holding back their *vulnerabilities* to maintain the *social image* of a confident and happy person.
Heart-to-heart conversations have become *rare, artificial and shallow*. And most hearts are filled with *empty defences*.
Most people can’t even talk to their *life-partners openly* for the fear of being judged or rejected. Emotions await just a release. Social images make sure weakness is not glorified.
Children have *bottled up* stress. Young people suffer anxiety and depression.
It is just lack of social support. It is *lack of non-judgmental* friendships. It is result of *fast and busy lives* where nobody has time to just sit and watch someone cry.
It is result of *instant and impatient lifestyle* practices, that *emotions have started feeling like waste of time*.
We have *whatsapp and facetime and social media* – and we also have *stress and anxiety and depression*.
Our forefathers had neither. Because they talked to each other. Because talking helps.
The face-to-face type talking, the *just-listen-to-me* type talking, the *hold-my-hand-and-let-me-cry* type talking, the *sit-next-to-me-and-listen-to-my-silence* type talking… the talking where the person can be themselves and *say anything they feel without the fear of any judgement or loss or rejection*.
Today we dont like that type of talking. Those conversations when someone begins to undress one’s mind. In fact we *avoid people*. And so, mental illness is epidemic. Naturally.
There is not much we can do. But we can offer a *listening* !
Let’s let people talk without any fear. Let’s create conversations.
*Let’s start talking again*.
BE A GIVER , IT WILL GIVE YOU REAL HAPPINESS
From Katherine Hepburn
Once when I was a teenager, my father and I were standing in line to buy tickets for the circus.
Finally, there was only one other family between us and the ticket counter. This family made a big impression on me.
There were eight children, all probably under the age of 12. The way they were dressed, you could tell they didn’t have a lot of money, but their clothes were neat and clean.
The children were well-behaved, all of them standing in line, two-by-two behind their parents, holding hands. They were excitedly jabbering about the clowns, animals, and all the acts they would be seeing that night. By their excitement you could sense they had never been to the circus before. It would be a highlight of their lives.
The father and mother were at the head of the pack standing proud as could be. The mother was holding her husband’s hand, looking up at him as if to say, “You’re my knight in shining armor.” He was smiling and enjoying seeing his family happy.
The ticket lady asked the man how many tickets he wanted? He proudly responded, “I’d like to buy eight children’s tickets and two adult tickets, so I can take my family to the circus.” The ticket lady stated the price.
The man’s wife let go of his hand, her head dropped, the man’s lip began to quiver. Then he leaned a little closer and asked, “How much did you say?” The ticket lady again stated the price.
The man didn’t have enough money. How was he supposed to turn and tell his eight kids that he didn’t have enough money to take them to the circus?
Seeing what was going on, my dad reached into his pocket, pulled out a $20 bill, and then dropped it on the ground. (We were not wealthy in any sense of the word!) My father bent down, picked up the $20 bill, tapped the man on the shoulder and said, “Excuse me, sir, this fell out of your pocket.”
The man understood what was going on. He wasn’t begging for a handout but certainly appreciated the help in a desperate, heartbreaking and embarrassing situation.
He looked straight into my dad’s eyes, took my dad’s hand in both of his, squeezed tightly onto the $20 bill, and with his lip quivering and a tear streaming down his cheek, he replied; “Thank you, thank you, sir. This really means a lot to me and my family.”
My father and I went back to our car and drove home. The $20 that my dad gave away is what we were going to buy our own tickets with.
Although we didn’t get to see the circus that night, we both felt a joy inside us that was far greater than seeing the circus could ever provide.
*That day I learnt the value to Give.*
*The Giver is bigger than the Receiver.*
*If you want to be large, larger than the life, learn to Give.*
*Only if you Give can you Receive more. The Givers heart becomes the Ocean, in tune with the Almighty – The Source*
*Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get – only with what you are expecting to give – which is everything.*
“I’m driving him away, I just know I am,” she sniffed. “It’s just that I love him so much and I can’t bear the thought of losing him!” Emma had been badly hurt before by her former cheating fiancé. Once bitten, twice shy. Part of her knew that her new man was decent, caring, and honest, but the emotional bit of Emma felt that it was “just a matter of time” before things went wrong.
“If he’s quiet I actually start panicking! I’m thinking: What’s he planning? Is he going to finish with me? Has he met someone else? If I don’t know exactly where he is I get suspicious. He constantly has to reassure me. What can I do?”
Insecurity spoils relationships. Insecurity drives people to become too ‘clingy’ or needy and this creates problems.
Feeling insecure in a relationship is natural up to a point, at least until the relationship “settles”. Let’s look at this in more depth:
Relationships: A security issue
When we enter an intimate relationship we can feel very emotionally vulnerable; especially if we have felt let down or hurt in previous relationships.
Will they reject me?
Have I done something to upset them?
This is just too good to last!
These are the typical thoughts and feelings of the chronically insecure partner. Being insecure is a whole lot of hard work. So what does it involve?
Seeing problems where none exist
When we become anxious about anything, we start looking for signs of things ‘going wrong’ (nervous flyers look out for signs that the aircraft is in trouble). And, of course, we usually find what we’re looking for, even if it isn’t really there at all.
We perform constant monitoring: “Do they look fed up? Why did they say that? Who’s this other person they’ve mentioned? Should I feel threatened? Are they less attentive? Why did they pause after I suggested we meet up?” All this is exhausting.
Emma said she had often felt inadequate and “not good enough” to be with her current partner. She couldn’t possibly understand what he could see in her.
She also told me she had ended many previous relationships because of her insecurity. “It felt easier for me to end it before they did!” Walking away rather than risk the pain of feeling abandoned can seem the easiest thing to do. But we all need the comforts and support that intimacy can bring us. So what can you do if insecurity is blighting your relationships?
1) Stop confusing imagination with reality
Making stuff up and then believing it is a sure-fire way to self-torment.
The insecure flyer will hear the normal mechanism of the air conditioning and twist it within their imagination to signify impending doom via crash and burn. They’ll imagine the bored look on an air steward’s face to be barely concealed terror because, “He must know something we don’t!” The over-imaginative flyer may even fantasize the sound of the landing gear coming down is an engine falling from the plane. They scare themselves by assuming what they imagine represents reality.
There are normal ‘mechanisms’ to any relationship. There are ebbs and flows and mood changes, moments of intimacy and closeness and comfortable spaces. These ebbs and flows are normal. Wanting to be absolutely close and intimate all the time is like wanting an aeroplane to never make a sound or a movement.
Next time you feel insecure, ask yourself what it is you are imagining. Write it down on paper under, ‘Stuff I am making up in my head.’ Being able to distinguish between what you imagine and what is actually happening is a massive step toward self-assurance. Which neatly links to…
Emotional Insecurity
2) Avoid the Certainty Trap
Overcoming relationship insecurity is partly about becoming less controlling. This may sound strange, but feeling that: “This relationship must be exactly as I think it should be!” is a form of over-control. A sign of insecurity in relationships is when the desire for certainty becomes too strong.
Having to know whether your partner really loves you, having to know this or having to know that puts a lot of unnecessary strain and tension into the relationship. The fact is, we all have to live with uncertainty. Insecure people can still feel insecure even when they are told they are loved. Wanting what is not possible (complete and utter certainty in all and everything forever) is not possible because imagination can still make up doubts. So stop looking for certainty where it doesn’t apply.
Self-assurance comes from starting to relax with uncertainty. Wanting to know for certain that someone will be with you forever prevents you enjoying the here and now. Nothing in life is certain.
3) Give the relationship room to breathe
When you plant a seed in the ground, you need to give it access to sunlight, water, and air; you need to give it space to develop. Your relationship needs room to breathe. Schedule in some ‘separate time’ and just see it for what it is. The developing flower needing space to grow isn’t a sign that it is heading for collapse.
4) Stop ‘mind reading’
Constantly wondering what your partner is thinking is a quick route to anxiety. If they say one thing don’t assume they mean another. If they say nothing don’t assume that their silence is significant, either.
Many men relax by not talking. Constantly wondering and asking what someone is thinking is a dead end because even if they do tell, will you believe them anyway?
‘Mind reading’ happens when we assume we know what someone is thinking when we don’t. When you stop doing it, you really begin to respect someone’s privacy because everyone deserves the right to have space to think their own thoughts. Constantly asking, “What are you thinking?” can make someone want to withdraw further.
5) Stop comparing current relationships to past ones
Have you ever taken an instant disliking/liking to someone merely because they reminded you of someone else who you disliked/liked? Some people do this with whole relationships. Because they were in a relationship with someone who was abusive, very critical or dishonest, or who left them, they respond to a new partner defensively or angrily when, in fact, the new partner is not really like the old one at all.
The extreme form of this ‘sloppy comparison’ can lead to destructive over-generalizations such as, “All men are lying bastards!” or “All women are promiscuous money grabbers!”
If you suspect you have been making faulty unfair comparisons between your current partner and a former one, then write a list of all the destructive traits of your former partner. Write next to this list all the ways your current partner is different and review this list regularly. This will help you to stop assuming that the future has to be like the past.
6) For security: Seek self-assurance
Rather than always looking to the other person to make you feel secure in your relationship, get into the habit of reassuring yourself. Start to challenge your own fears and imaginings rather than just accepting them. Ask yourself: “Hold on a second. What real evidence is there for this fear?” At the same time you can focus on the thought: “Okay, nothing in this life is certain and I can live with that. And even if this relationship did end, I’m strong enough to go through it and ride it and will have learnt things from it.” We all need to go with the flow in relationships. What we fear will be ‘the end of the world’ if it happens never really is.
Sit down, close your eyes, and strongly imagine feeling relaxed and secure around your partner. This will train your brain to feel that “whatever happens, I’ll be okay.”
The agonies of love are many and varied. Each person has their own character and personality; they have different backgrounds and circumstances. So there is no set rule that applies equally to everyone . . . When a person dates is also a matter of personal choice. No one has any right to meddle in your private affairs.
However, I would like to stress at the outset how important it is not to lose sight of pursuing your own personal development.
Love should be a force that helps you expand your life and bring forth your innate potential with fresh and dynamic vitality. That is the ideal but, as the saying “Love is blind” illustrates, people often lose all objectivity when they fall in love.
If the relationship you’re in is causing your parents to worry, or making you neglect your studies or engage in destructive behavior, then you and the person you’re seeing are only being a negative influence and hindrance to each other. Neither of you will be happy if you both just end up hurting each other.
If you are neglecting the things you should be doing, forgetting your purpose in life because of the relationship you’re in, then you’re on the wrong path. A healthy relationship is one in which two people encourage each other to reach their respective goals while sharing each other’s hopes and dreams. A relationship should be a source of inspiration, invigoration and hope.
Love is a complex matter that is a reflection of each person’s attitude and philosophy toward life. That is why I believe people shouldn’t get involved in relationships lightly.
The bottom line is that, without respect, no relationship will last for very long, nor will two people be able to bring out the best in each other.
Rather than becoming so love-struck that you create a world where only the two of you exist, it is much healthier to learn from those aspects of your partner that you respect and admire, and continue to make efforts to improve and develop yourself. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, the author of The Little Prince, once wrote, “Love is not two people gazing at each other, but two people looking ahead together in the same direction.” It follows then that relationships last longer when both partners share similar values and beliefs.
Furthermore, please don’t succumb to the view that love is the be-all and end-all, deluding yourself that as long as you are in love, nothing else matters. Nor, I hope, will you buy into the misguided notion that sinking ever deeper into a painful and destructive relationship is somehow cool.
All too often when a relationship ends, the great passion it once inspired seems nothing more than an illusion. The things you learn through studying, on the other hand, are much more permanent. It is important, therefore, that you never extinguish the flame of your intellectual curiosity.
Far too many people nip their own brilliant promise in the bud because of their blind pursuit of love.
Much of daily life tends to be ordinary and unexciting. Making steady efforts day-to-day can be trying. It’s not always going to be fun. But, when you fall in love, life seems filled with drama and excitement; you feel like the leading character in a novel.
But if you lose yourself in love just because you’re bored, and consequently veer from the path you should be following, then love is nothing more than escapism. What you are doing is retreating into a dream world, believing that what is only an illusion is actually real.
Even if you try to use love as an escape, the fact is that the euphoria is unlikely to last for long. If anything, you may only find yourself with even more problems along with a great deal of pain and sadness. However much you may try, you can never run away from yourself. If you remain weak, suffering will only follow you wherever you go. You will never find happiness if you don’t change yourself from within. Happiness is not something that someone else, like a lover, for instance, can give to you. You have to achieve it for yourself. And the only way to do so is by developing your own character and capacity as a human being; by fully maximizing your potential. If you sacrifice your own growth and talent for love, you will absolutely not find happiness. True happiness is obtained through fully realizing your own potential.
I would also like to add that to embark on a relationship as an escape from something is extremely disrespectful to both your partner and yourself.
Each of you has a precious mission that only you can fulfill . To neglect one’s mission and seek only personal pleasure is a sign of selfishness. It is impossible for an egotistic, self-centered individual to truly love another person.
On the other hand, if you genuinely love someone, then through your relationship with them, you can develop into a person whose love extends to all humanity. Such a relationship serves to strengthen, elevate and enrich the inner realm of your life. Ultimately, the relationships you form are a reflection of your own state of life. The same is true of friendship. Only to the extent that you polish yourself now can you hope to develop wonderful bonds of the heart in the future.
With some people, however, once they have gotten into a relationship, they have a hard time saying “no” to the other person for fear of losing them. In that respect, love is like riding in a car with no brakes. Sometimes, even if you want to get out, you can’t; even if you regret having gotten in, the car won’t stop. In many cases, people get involved in a relationship thinking they are free and independent, but at some point find they have become captive to the relationship.
Each one of you is infinitely precious. Therefore, I hope you will treat yourself with utmost respect. Please don’t follow a path that will cause you suffering, but take the road that is best for your well-being.
The truth is, ideal love is fostered only between two sincere, mature and independent people. It is essential, therefore, that you work on polishing yourself first.
It is demeaning to be constantly seeking your partner’s approval. Such a relationship is bereft of real caring, depth or even love. If you find yourself in a relationship where you are not treated the way your heart tells you you should be, I hope you will have the courage and dignity to decide that you are better off risking being scorned by your partner than enduring an unhappy relationship.
Real love is not two people clinging to each other; it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality. A shallow person will only have shallow relationships. If you want to experience real love, it is important to first sincerely develop a strong self-identity. True love is not about doing whatever the other person wants you to do or pretending you are something you’re not. If someone genuinely loves you, they will not force you to do anything against your will nor embroil you in some dangerous activity.
Please have the confidence and fortitude to think to yourself when you face rejection: “It’s their loss if they can’t appreciate how wonderful I am!” This is the kind of resilient spirit you must strive to cultivate.
Please don’t let a broken heart discourage you. Tell yourself that you’re not so weak or fragile as to let such a minor thing bring you down. You may think there is no one who could possibly compare to that person, but how will they compare to the next hundred, the next thousand, the next ten thousand people you will meet? You cannot declare with certainty that there will not be others who far surpass them. As you yourself grow, the way you look at people will change as well.
I’m sure quite a few among you have had your hearts broken or been badly hurt, and perhaps feel unable to go on, your self-esteem in tatters. But you must never believe that you are worthless. There is no substitute for you who are more precious than all the treasures in the universe gathered together.
It is important for you to become strong. For if you are strong, even your sadness will become a source of nourishment, and the things that make you suffer will purify your life.
Only when you experience the crushing, painful depths of suffering can you begin to understand the true meaning of life. Precisely because you have experienced great suffering, it is imperative that you go on living. The important thing is to keep moving forward. If you use your sadness as a source of growth, you will become a person of greater depth and breadth–an even more wonderful you.
Dear Ones,
Love in this era is different from what it was in the past. Today, we learn that everything in our outer world is a mirror of what goes on in our minds. If we want to find love and acceptance, then that’s what we must first give to ourselves. Most of us have long lists of reasons why we believe that we’re not lovable. This list usually stems from things that our families or teachers have said to us, and when we hear them over and over again, we often start to believe them. Or perhaps our list relates to ideas that we learn from our early religious upbringing, or from popular concepts or stereotypes. Whenever we decide to accept these opinions as truth, we give up our power and live a life of fear and limitation.
Remember, loving ourselves has nothing to do with vanity or arrogance—these emotions are only expressions of fear. When we love ourselves, we cherish and appreciate the wondrous beings that we are. Loving ourselves creates a life of joy and fulfillment.
It’s hard for other people to love you when you don’t love yourself. Even if someone else does love you, you’re most likely to discount it by wondering, How could they love me? What do they see in me? When you don’t love yourself, it’s hard to believe that you deserve good things in life. Therefore, you miss out on the abundance that’s available to you.
Here’s my Valentine to you: Stop criticizing yourself—now and forevermore. Love and accept yourself as you are right now. When you do, you’ll blossom in ways that you can’t even imagine. Love will heal you, I promise. Your love for yourself will work miracles in your life.
Here Are 10 Affirmations To Help You Love Yourself and Bring More Love into Your Life:
I choose to see clearly with eyes of love. I love what I see.
Love happens! I release the deperate need for love, and instead, allow it to find me in the perfect time.
Love is around every corner, and joy fills my entire world.
Today, I remember that Life loves me and will reward me.
Life is very simple. What I give out comes back to me. Today I chose to give love.
I rejoice in the love I encounter every day.
I am surrounded by love. All is well.
I am comfortable looking in the mirror and saying, “I love you. I really love you.”
I draw love and acceptance into my life, and I accept it now.
Love is all there is!
Happy Valentine’s Day to you all!
Good morning all , Today we talk about Affirmations
I know now that science supports the power of positive affirmations. Affirmations are basically a form of auto-suggestion, and when practiced deliberately and repeatedly, they reinforce chemical pathways in the brain, strengthening neural connections.
Says David J. Hellerstein, M.D., a Professor of Clinical Psychiatry at Columbia University, “In brief, we have realized that ‘neuroplasticity,’ the ongoing remodeling of brain structure and function, occurs throughout life. It can be affected by life experiences, genes, biological agents, and by behavior, as well as by thought patterns.”
Neuroscience now proves that our thoughts can change the structure and function of our brains. (If you want to learn more about this fascinating science, check out the book The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science by Norman Doidge, M.D.)
By practicing positive thought patterns (affirmations) repetitively, we actually create neuroplasticity in the area of the brain that processes what we are thinking about. The key is repetition so you flood your brain with the positive thought.
When practicing affirmations, choose one or two to focus on for several weeks. Say the affirmation out loud in a confident voice several times a day and before you go to bed. To add more power to the affirmation, write it down as you speak it. Be sure your affirmations are in the present tense, as though they are a current reality.
Thanks to all
Guidance for 4/2/2017 “Start a new trend. Stop saying ‘Sorry’ instead say ‘Thanks’. Like in place of ‘Sorry I am late’ say ‘Thank you for waiting for me’. This will shift the way you think and of yourself and improve your relationships with others who get to receive your ‘gratitude’ instead of ‘Negativity’ ” Love ❤️ Light 🙌🏻 Laughter 😃 to all Aum Namah Shivay 🙏🏻🌹🌹🙏🏻
When you get in a relationship with someone you really like, you want to give everything you have in the relationship, and expect your partner to do the same. However, when one partner keeps their emotions under wraps and doesn’t feel comfortable sharing them(much less care about your emotions), you will get hurt quickly in the relationship. It takes two people to have a healthy, happy relationship, and when one doesn’t open up their heart entirely to their partner, the other will inevitably feel betrayed and confused.
If you suspect someone you know is emotionally unavailable, but aren’t sure, these signs will clear it up for you.
HERE ARE 7 SIGNS SOMEONE IS EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE:
1. YOU CAN’T READ THEM CLEARLY.
An emotionally unavailable person will try to confuse you to death with mixed messages – one day, they want to commit to you, and the next, they don’t even want a relationship. Or, in regards to friendship, the friend may ask you questions about yourself, but don’t want to reveal much about themselves. One minute, they seem to want a deeper connection, and the next, they run away from the vulnerability of the situation. You can’t really get a clear feel for their intentions, but you know you feel confused and frustrated. An emotionally available person will tell you their intentions up front, and stick to them.
The person may come on strongly at first, only to back away very quickly, leaving you hanging.
2. THEY ALREADY HAVE A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP.
If you have interest in someone who already has a partner, then listen up. You definitely don’t want to continue a relationship with this person, as they’ll just end up hurting you in the end. Of course, if you don’t want a serious relationship, and feel comfortable with open relationships, then this could work out fine. It just depends on what you want in a relationship. However, someone who has multiple partners likely has vulnerability issues, since they can’t commit to just one person. They don’t want to invest in any one person in case it gets too serious.
3. AN EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE PERSON WILL NEVER CONSIDER YOUR FEELINGS.
This person likely never asks how you feel, and instead only considers their own desires. They could care less about what you want, and care all about what they want. The world revolves around them in their eyes, so they don’t pay much attention to how you feel. Every decision they make only puts them higher on the totem pole, and they don’t care who they leave behind. If this sounds like your relationship, you likely have an emotionally unavailable partner.
4. THEY DON’T WANT TO KNOW MUCH ABOUT YOU.
An emotionally unavailable person sees people as objects, and try to manipulate them to benefit themselves in life. They see everyone as a potential pawn in their game, and play with people’s heads in order to move them in the direction they see fit. They are master manipulators, and are champions of their own game. They will only show interest in the sexual side of the relationship, and won’t attempt to connect further with anyone. As a friend, they will show little interest in getting to know you, and instead, talk about base-level things with you.
They likely had an emotionally or physically abusive person in their lives as a childhood, so in turn, they feel scared to open up to anyone. They may have had emotionally abusive parents, or had a physically abusive boyfriend or girlfriend at a young age. A lifelong study of people in England, Scotland and Wales found that people who felt their parents were overly controlling or encouraged dependence had lower levels of happiness and overall well-being later in life. So, if you have an emotionally unavailable partner or friend, their past could reveal a lot of answers about their current behavior.
5. YOU WILL ALWAYS FEEL LIKE SOMETHING’S MISSING WITH THEM.
You always want them to do or say a little more, but they never do. There’s a certain element of mystery and frustration that looms in the air in your relationship, and you feel like all signs point to them. You can’t figure them out, and they don’t give you the opportunity to try. They shut you out just as you feel you’re getting close to them, because they fear emotional intimacy with anyone.
6. THEY DON’T LIKE TALKING IN PERSON.
An emotionally unavailable person will engage in several behaviors that will point to their fear of emotional commitment. They will avoid eye contact when you do talk in person, but most of the time, they prefer texting, emailing, or talking on the phone. Why? Well, technology makes them feel safer. They have a virtual barrier between them and the other person, so they don’t have to open up as much. They can send Emojis if they feel like showing any type of emotion at all, and will continue to make excuses as to why they can’t meet up with you. They have a very hard time leaving their comfort zone, and will do anything to avoid face-to-face interactions.
7. THEY WILL SEEM COLD, UNFEELING, AND DISTANT.
Your emotionally unavailable partner or friend will keep you at arm’s length, simply because they’ve been taught not to trust people. The people they wanted to trust the most in life from an early age let them down, so they’ve known nothing but betrayal and hurt. They just don’t have the capacity to fully give themselves to another, or show that they actually care about you. So, they put up walls as a way to keep themselves from getting hurt, because they can’t take that kind of pain again.
This doesn’t give them an excuse, but if you notice this sign from your partner, then you likely have someone who isn’t emotionally available.
When you have a strong feeling of being “never good enough”, it will typically come in 4 distinct forms:
1. Competence
The feeling that I am “never good enough” at some skill or ability, like making money, being “perfect” or something else I “should” be good at.
2. Body
The feeling that my body is not good enough — I am not thin enough, strong enough, tall enough or pretty enough.
3. Identity
The feeling that I am somehow the “wrong kind” of person — it could be my gender, my race, my sexual orientation or even my personality.
4. Relationship
The feeling that “I will be loved only if I am _____.” This “_____” could be based on my career success (competence), my body appearance (body), my willingness to “change who I am” (identity) or something else, where I feel I will ONLY get love, IF a separate condition is also met.
Why You Have It
If you have some combination of these four, it is usually the result of an inner emotional wound that was suffered in early life – through no fault of your own.
This type of wound is typically inherited from one’s parents, and it is transmitted unwittingly and without malice.
However, once the seeds of these beliefs are planted and not corrected, they will lead to feelings of low self-worth, anxiety, anger and even self-harm and depression, all throughout one’s life.
How to Heal It
The key to truly healing this wound is not to fight the negative inner voice, or to forcibly numb it with alcohol, food, or perfectionism, but instead to try and rescue it – this forceful inner voice is actually an integral part of you – a part of your deep inner self, which has been cut off from you, and it is wounded and in pain.
This is the true meaning of “recovery” – that you must recover this exiled part of you, so that you may become truly whole and healed.
There comes a time when you have to accept that actions speak louder than words. If someone says a lot of nice things but doesn’t follow through, then maybe it is as simple as being there for you isn’t important to them. They can say they care about you, that they want you in their life or they love and want to be with you, but if they don’t also show you those things then you should believe it. It may not be the case all the time – I am sure there are exceptions to every rule – but if someone really cares about you, they’ll show you.
You shouldn’t have to be the one who puts in all the effort, who starts the conversations, tries to make plans, or takes care of them when they won’t be there for you. If someone treats you like they are indifferent or don’t care, believe them.
1. You deserve someone who is going to be there as much as they say they are.
2.”I don’t want just words. If that’s all you have for me, you’d better go.”
3. If you want her in your life, let her know.
4.”You had her with your words, and lost her with your actions.”
5.Something to keep in mind.
“You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.”
6. It isn’t too much to ask.
“Show me, don’t tell me.”
By worship I don’t mean any ritual.
Ritual is not worship. Love is worship and love is never a ritual. Rituals are repetitive, formal. Love is informal, non-repetitive, spontaneous. Be in love with existence — that is worship.
And love in as many ways as possible, don’t hold back.
That’s my whole teaching.
Jump into life totally, wholly. When you are wholly in life, totally in life you become religious, you become holy. That is the only way to be holy.
Dance is the most symbolic act. Nothing represents god better than dance. God is a dancer. And why do I say that nothing represents him better?
Because dance is the only activity known to us in which the actor and the action are one. If you paint the painter becomes different from the painting.
If you sculpt you become separate from your creation. Dance is the only activity which is inseparable from the dancer; you cannot take the dance away from the dancer.
Existence is the dance of god; they are together.
Hence he has to be found in this dance:
The wind passing through the pine trees, the sound of running water, the song of the birds in the morning, the freedom of the clouds, the beauty of the flowers. God has to be found now and here, in this very dance.
This whole existence is his temple. There is no need to make any churches, any temples, any mosques. They are all false and they go on distracting people from the true religion.
True religion is a devotion towards life and existence.
Remember it: in every leaf of grass is god.
It is his gesture. In thousands of moods and in thousands of gestures he is dancing all over.
He is dancing within you and without you. Hence I teach my sannyasins to dance and to dance with such abundance that you are lost in it.
That will give you the first taste of what it is to have a meeting with god
To have a date with god.
*Akelaapan*v/s
*Aikaant*
Here goes a humble translation
Loneliness v/s Solitude
*’अकेलापन’* इस संसार में सबसे बड़ी सज़ा है.!
और *’एकांत’*
इस संसार में सबसे बड़ा वरदान.!!
Loneliness is the biggest punishment in this world!
And Solitude is the biggest gift/blessing!!
ये दो समानार्थी दिखने वाले
शब्दों के अर्थ में
. आकाश पाताल का अंतर है।
These two words appear so similar, yet cannot be more apart, like heaven and hell!
*अकेलेपन* में छटपटाहट है
तो *एकांत* में आराम है।
Loneliness is suffering, and Solitude is relaxing!
*अकेलेपन* में घबराहट है
तो *एकांत* में शांति।
Loneliness is fear and solitude is Shanti/peace!
जब तक हमारी नज़र
बाहरकी ओर है तब तक हम.
*अकेलापन* महसूस करते हैं
Till we look for solace in the outer world we experience Loneliness!
और
जैसे ही नज़र भीतर की ओर मुड़ी
तो *एकांत* अनुभव होने लगता है।
But when we look within, we start experiencing solitude!
ये जीवन और कुछ नहीं
वस्तुतः
*अकेलेपन* से *एकांत* की ओर
एक यात्रा ही है.!!
This life is nothing but a journey from loneliness to solitude!
ऐसी *यात्रा* जिसमें
*रास्ता* भी हम हैं, *राही* भी हम हैं
और *मंज़िल* भी हम ही हैं.!!
In the movie _Taare Zameen Par_The art teacher tells the rude and cursing father of the dyslexic kid about *Solomon Islands..*
In those islands, the tribal don’t cut down a tree. *They surround the tree and curse it for hours every day..*
Within a few weeks, the tree
dries up and becomes dead..
Many of us might find that example too difficult to believe. How can intangible and invisible thoughts and words kill a tree.!
Well, if you get to read Bruce H. Lipton’s THE BIOLOGY OF BELIEF, you won’t only believe in the Solomon Islands story, but would also think a dozen times before saying something demoralizing to yourself and the people you love..
In this book, Mr. Lipton tells in detail about the power of conscious and subconscious mind..
The subconscious mind is million times more powerful than the conscious mind, and decides most of the things in our lives according to the beliefs it has..
Many times we fail to change an unpleasant habit despite our will-power and consistent efforts..
It’s because the habit has been so strongly programmed in our subconscious mind that the efforts made by our conscious mind hardly make any difference.
*Conscious Mind is just a shadow* *of our Unconscious Mind..*
So, when the tribals of Solomon Islands curse a tree, they are actually installing negative and harmful beliefs in the tree’s emotion (yes, trees do have emotions too).
Within few days, those negative emotions becomes a belief & eventually changes the molecular architecture of the tree and kill it from inside..
2500 years ago, when the Buddha said that *‘You are what you think’,* he was not articulating a random philosophical theory.
Actually he was telling a scientific fact which is now proved correct by Quantum Physics and Molecular Biology.
The book has a special chapter on Conscious Parenting where it talks about the beneficial and harmful effects of what parents say to their children..
*If you are a parent and you keep cursing your child in the name of constructive criticism, you are installing beliefs in their mind which will keep harming them forever..*
*But if you keep appreciating them in a sincere way, you are installing beliefs in their mind which will help them entire life..*
And also be careful of what
you keep saying to yourself.
Repetition of words and thoughts is the best way to install a belief in your subconscious mind..
If you keep saying you are a loser,
don’t be surprised if you become one within a few months or years..
And if you have friends who keep saying such things to you, there is no harm in saying a quick goodbye to them..
May be you value the friendship a lot. But you must value yourself a little more..
So accept all as they are..
Love all unconditionally
And …Always keep saying to urself..
*I am healthy, wealthy, happy, successful & prosperous!*
1) There are 26 gods in gayatri mantra
tat – ganesh
sa – Narasimha
vi – vishnu
tu – siva
va – krishna
re – radha
Ni – lakshmi
yam – agni
bha – indra
Rga – saraswati
dE – durga
va – hanuman
sya – prithvi
dhee – surya
ma – Sriram
hi – seetha
dhi – chandra
yO – yama
ya – brahma
na – varuna
chO – hayagreeva
da – hamsa
yaat – tulasi
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uttaraataara kopitaa | madhyamaalupta taarakaa |
adhamasooryasahitaa | praataha sandhyaatridhaamata ||
it means, best time for chanting gayatri mantra is when stars are still seen in sky before sunrise, medium time is when stars meet sun, worst time is after stars disappear and only sun remains in sky.
Thats why ancestors practice mantras in \’braha muhurtam\’ around 4am.
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ashtottaram sahasramva ashtottara satam tuva |
ashtaavimsati revaada gatarrim dasakam japet |
One should chant 1008 times, or 108 time of 28 times or atleast 10 times a day.
agnirmukham, brahmasirah
vishnur hridayam, rudrassikhA
gayatri has fire in face, brahma the creator in forehead, vishnu the protector in heart and Siva the destroyer on top of head.
So its a combination of all gods.
2)
Gayathri Manthra should be chanted 3 times a day – 4 to 8 AM, 4 to 8 PM are Sattvik times. 8AM to 4PM is Rajsik. 8PM to 4AM is Tamasik.
The best time to chant Gayathri is around 6AM, 12 Noon and 6PM. Goddess Gaythri confers the boon of Intelligence as Gayathri, Protection as Savithri and Learning as Saraswathi. Gayathri is therefore called Sarvadevata Swarupini.
By chanting at least twice a day – morning and evening – the sin committed unknowingly that day are destroyed and left over Karma is burnt. The person gets closer and closer to Divinity.
Chant the Mantra 3 times when you are having a bath – it will serve the dual purpose of chanting as well as performing Abisheka to the Mantra. Chant 3 times before eating – you would have not only purified the food, but also offered the food to the Mantra. If you do it everyday, you need not chant any other Mantra. It protects you from calamities and confers upon you intelligence, learning and success.
Just as the sun dispels darkness, it drives out the ignorance, indolence and sloth in you. It will aid in developing Prajnana, Sujnana and Vijnana. …………
The Mystical secrets
Closing cyclesby Paulo Coelho
One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished. Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?
You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.
Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill. Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.
Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.” Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important. Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.
Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are…
Heavy karma can trap us in terrible patterns. We attract the same types of people, jobs, illnesses, events, accidents, and unneeded burdens into our lives. The much-needed break in the karmic cycle occurs when we analyze our personal karma and take the necessary steps to resolve it. Bad karma feeds off resentment. It makes you attract people who give you even more reason to be resentful.
Put into practice these 7 strategies to become unstuck from your current karma and manifest a new reality:
*1. Identify your karma.*
Identifying your karma means pinpointing in what areas of life you feel stagnant. Is it in your career that you can’t seem to break through, or a love relationship that just won’t move forward? Have you been suffering the same struggles with certain family members for too long?
We are each bound to a unique karma that locks us in unwanted circumstances. Reflect honestly on your obstacles and understand where the problem lies. When and how did this all start? The first step to untangling yourself from your karmic knots and advancing towards your true potential, is to revert to the origin of the issue.
*2. Sever toxic ties.*
Feel no remorse in cutting off people who invade your field of energy with burdensome karma. Life is complicated enough — don’t let the wrong people complicate it even more!
This doesn’t mean you should create ill-will between you and another person, but that you should politely and respectfully distance yourself from people who bring you more harm than good.You don’t need to offer too many explanations; a simple note of closure that wishes them well will suffice. If the person’s energy doesn’t feel “right” and they constantly inflict stress on you, you owe it to yourself and your karma to let them go their own merry way.
*3. Take responsibility.*
You begin to feel your energy shift when you admit your wrongs. Taking responsibility is difficult to do because your ego doesn’t like to be blamed, but it widens your perspective. You start to see where you might’ve gone wrong, and how to do things differently the next time a similar situation arises. You learn from your mistakes. This is not to say that you should feel guilt or dwell on the past, but simply that, in the future, you promise to consult your karma first when faced with a decision.
*4. Heal your karma.*
Perform actions that nourish your spirit and invoke well-being on every level. Go back and close open doors, alleviate old pains, and comfort your inner child. Learn to accept your karma and work with the universal cards you’ve been dealt. Carry out deeds that counteract accumulated karma from long ago, and contribute to the wellness of our world. Time doesn’t heal all wounds — it engrains them more deeply. Only by healing your karma can you evolve out of your past.
*5. Defy your weaknesses.*
We perceive ourselves to be weak in certain areas and strong in others. Maybe you think that you’re good at pleasing others, but bad at standing up for yourself. What you don’t realize is that your weaknesses are your secret strengths: they define you just as much as
your more prominent traits do.Learn to see your weaknesses as karmic attributes of your complete being. Don’t become the “victim” of your vulnerabilities; this invites all sorts of karmic scenarios that play on your sensitivities. Develop, instead, the courage to defy your downfalls and take the reins of karmic patterns.
*6. Take new action.*
If you see that the old ways of doing things aren’t benefiting you, modify your behavior. Sometimes we’re so stuck in acting a certain way that we don’t see its obvious drawbacks. Act on principle; this is the simplest and most underrated way to compensate all karmic debts and generate positive karma. Do good, even when you’re not expected to. Take care of yourself and others. Steer clear of compromising situations. In short, act in ways you would want others to act towards you.
*7. Forgive everyone.*
Nothing frees you quite like forgiveness. And this virtue comes more easily when you acknowledge its transformative graces. To forgive is to detach — from the anger, bitterness, and frustration you harbor internally. Bad karma feeds off of resentment — it makes you attract people who give you even more reason to be resentful. We often wonder why we can’t escape the wheel of negativity — instead we avoid the truth that it’s our very emotions that reel us into such cycles.
Karma is a unique force to each of us — every person is fighting his or own karmic battles. But the sooner we identify the sources of our unsettled karma and take action to resolve it, the sooner we experience the miracle of liberation to fulfill the greater purpose of our lives.
Law of Vibration
States that anything that exists in our universe, whether seen or unseen, broken down into and analyzed in it’s purest and most basic form, consists of pure energy or light which resonates and exists as a vibratory frequency or pattern. All matter, thoughts and feelings has its own vibrational frequency. The thoughts, feelings and actions we choose also have their own particular rates of vibration. These vibrations will set up resonance with whatever possesses identical frequency. In other words, your thoughts are inseparably connected to the rest of the universe. “Like attracts like”. As you choose good thoughts, more good thoughts of alike nature will follow and you will also be in vibrational harmony with others with like thoughts.
Science reveals that everything in the manifest universe is ultimately composed of packets of energy; quantized units vibrating at specific frequencies. Quantum physicists has shown that, although matter may appear to be solid, when you look at it through a high-powered microscope so that it is broken down into its smallest components: molecules, atoms, neutrons, electrons and quanta (the smallest particles measurable), it is ultimately mostly empty space interspersed with energy. So, in essence everything is comprised of energy and empty space. Everything that appears solid is the frequency of the vibration of the energy that makes it up. An interesting fact about this is that the denser the object, the higher the speed of vibration. At the same time, the lower the density of an object is, the lower the speed of vibration.
For us, thought is where it all begins. As your conscious mind dwells habitually on thoughts of a certain quality, these become firmly imbedded within the subconscious mind. They become the dominant vibration. This dominant vibration sets up a resonance with other similar vibrations and draws them into your life. This is easier to understand if you consider that from the metaphysical view, the whole universe IS MIND. In turn, your vibrations affect everything around you – your environment, the people and animals around you, the inanimate objects, even the seemingly ‘empty’ space and they, in turn, affect you.
Your feeling at the present moment dictates your vibration. It is said that feeling is a word to define conscious awareness of vibration. So, your feeling at the moment is your vibration you are in which sets up things of like nature. Positive feelings = positive circumstance, negative feelings = negative circumstances.
“Meditation is actually meant to bring you to this full stop, where for the first time you are no more motivated by any desire, by any ambition, by any longing. For the first time future has disappeared. It has never been in existence, it was only your imagination. Future is your projection of unfulfilled desires. The more unfulfilled you are, the bigger a future you have. The more unfulfilled is your being, the richer the dreams you have of the future. But it is just in your mind.
“We divide time into three tenses: the past, the present, the future. But it is a wrong division. Time consists only of the present, and mind consists only of past and future. You are mixing two things together.
“Meditation will help to give you the clarity to divide them exactly as they are.
“Mind is memory of the past and mind is imagination for the future. But time itself is undividedly only present. You never meet yesterdays, and you never meet tomorrows. What you actually encounter, always, is the present moment.
“The moment you realize this, you start settling withinwards. All movement is outwards, all movement is extrovert. No-movement is introvert, no-movement is going inwards, just settling at the very centre of your being — not even a ripple, no thought, no dream, no desire.
When you have a strong feeling of being “never good enough”, it will typically come in 4 distinct forms:
1. Competence
The feeling that I am “never good enough” at some skill or ability, like making money, being “perfect” or something else I “should” be good at.
2. Body
The feeling that my body is not good enough — I am not thin enough, strong enough, tall enough or pretty enough.
3. Identity
The feeling that I am somehow the “wrong kind” of person — it could be my gender, my race, my sexual orientation or even my personality.
4. Relationship
The feeling that “I will be loved only if I am _____.” This “_____” could be based on my career success (competence), my body appearance (body), my willingness to “change who I am” (identity) or something else, where I feel I will ONLY get love, IF a separate condition is also met.
Why You Have It
If you have some combination of these four, it is usually the result of an inner emotional wound that was suffered in early life – through no fault of your own.
This type of wound is typically inherited from one’s parents, and it is transmitted unwittingly and without malice.
However, once the seeds of these beliefs are planted and not corrected, they will lead to feelings of low self-worth, anxiety, anger and even self-harm and depression, all throughout one’s life.
How to Heal It
The key to truly healing this wound is not to fight the negative inner voice, or to forcibly numb it with alcohol, food, or perfectionism, but instead to try and rescue it – this forceful inner voice is actually an integral part of you – a part of your deep inner self, which has been cut off from you, and it is wounded and in pain.
This is the true meaning of “recovery” – that you must recover this exiled part of you, so that you may become truly whole and healed.
Why is it that the woman all ways blame herself for messing up the relationship and think that the man had nothing to do with it? it is because he has brain washed woman into believing that the only reason he would leave is that she did something wrong. They have gone through these experiences with different woman over and over and they know how it will turn out and they truly enjoy behaving badly toward woman. I did the same thing I believed that I was the cause of him walking away and I racked my brain trying to think of what I may have said or done to make him walk away and treat me so badly. But the truth is I did nothing wrong this is how the male works on all woman. Now that I know how these men are I don’t ever want another Narcissistic man as long as I live. They are evil Narcissists from birth. Why would all men act like this I did not believe it until it happened near me and over again to see that they treat all woman the same badly and walk away and leave them broken people just to come back and do it again. This is some sinister behavior but the Narcissistic men all act the same with every woman, because they don’t love anyone but themselves and how can someone love themselves if they treat other people like dirt. yes he can be charming and act like he is loving but this is just to get you confident in the relationship so they can let you down and walk out they have to love treating people like this or it is just built into the personality to destroy woman because they all do it and just the same old way nothing new or different.
The Divine Law of Abundance
The biggest worry people across the globe are facing today is that of sustenance. Everyone is concerned about a lack in their future. You worry that there isn’t enough savings in the bank, you may not be able to meet the mortgage on the house, your car is not good enough and your job is awful, but you won’t get another if your quit this one. Some of you cannot afford a holiday. You constantly fret over your children’s education expenses, your impending old age and retirement needs.
The world around you does not help either. On television, you watch the war in some country and worry about the scarcity that might arise from the prevailing global uncertainty. Newspapers tell you that there aren’t enough seats in the top colleges and companies are firing people; there aren’t enough jobs for those being retrenched. In short, there are no opportunities.
It helps people with vested interests to promote anxiety in society because in a state of panic, they stand to benefit by selling their hoard of goods/services for a premium. This constant worry about scarcity is quite damaging for the collective psyche of any community. It creates needless stress, apprehension and drives people to desperation, where they can do drastic things.
Today, I want to tell you something about attracting abundance. Sit in meditation. Bring all your thoughts and fears of scarcity together. Feel the deep seated fears inside you, knot them together and expel them. Visualise these fears leaving every cell of your body, every chakra of your system, every aspect of your being, every dimension of your life. They don’t serve you anymore. Concentrate on your third eye where all your memories and perceptions are stored. Cleanse your Citta and Ahamkara. To do this, imagine an intense ray of light burning these perceptions and memories. Watch this process till all memory is burnt and your third eye is clean.
Now see the abundant Earth. She is so expansive and has created limitless abundance. See the colours, trees, flowers, fruits, metals, animals, objects around. Can you define boundaries in anything? Even to this day, new metals, new planet species, new colours, new technologies and new ideas are being discovered. The Earth does not know boundaries. She is expanding and growing. The population is growing and alongside that, resources are also growing or are being created every single day.
Every human is born with a uniqueness to serve this Earth and this world. It may be your artistic capabilities, or your brain power to create something unique. Or you could be a celestial healer or managing a big business that will bring value to society. Unless you follow the path of that unique ability you have in your DNA, you will not get the success you want and Consciousness will keep aligning you to that path.
So how do you know your uniqueness? Delve within. See what you truly love to do, if money were not a concern and go on that path without fear. The Universe will support you with men, money and material to achieve success. Enhance your awareness and realise your self-worth and honour yourself for what you are and what you are not. If you deal with a product, then realise the worth of the product and have faith in it. You will be able to connect with clients who will pay fair value for your services or products, without depending on anyone for your sustenance. It is a divine connection of give and take.
This same divine union is formed with other people, where there is no fear of losing anyone and no dependability. Every relationship must involve an equal and fair give and take. Hear others with patience and then use your self-power to convince them.
In your Self power, you stand all alone without needing to depend on anyone and without having anyone depend on you. Even your family is sustained by Consciousness. You are just a medium. So release the fear of being responsible for anyone and realise your
complete power. What you give to the world is what you get from the world.
Just as a plant taps its roots steadily into the hard ground for nutrition, you need to spread your roots into the society, slowly and steadily with confidence. You have the right to have stability and support. Cultivate meaningful friendships and good friends who will support you, get good and honest staff for your company, have a loyal customer base and develop relationships with suppliers who will stand by your side.
This happens when you realise the law of divine Union, where there is a fair give and take. Expand your creativity and self-worth and aim to serving the needs of the people more. The bigger your aspiration, the more resources the Consciousness will send you in terms of money, men and material.
Know that there is enough for your needs. And more can be produced by Earth as per your need. If it gives you too much stress, do not focus on goals or targets. Take things one day at a time, one moment at a time and live it completely. One moment well lived and complete will make way for the next complete moment.